One of the things I hate about being in love. The people's reaction to it. Usually, in conversations, along with the never-ending questions "How have you been?", "How's school", comes : "How's your love life?". Lets say you smile widely and they can tell there's something going on there. Apparently for some this is a crime. It's wrong that you are happy. It's wrong that you are in a relationship. Because, hey, what's love anyways but brainwashing and pointless trouble? Somehow they're better than you just because they're single. Prepare for the jokes and not very subtle ironies. "So, big love, huh?", "I suppose you have you're hands full now", "When's the wedding?", "Where's the husband?"etc.. Actually it's not what they say, it's how they say it. With sarcasm and pity. And frankly it bothers me. Because it's utterly immature. And there's the opposite reaction. Some of them start congratulating you like you've won the lottery or fulfilled a life-time dream. Like this was your last chance of being with somebody. What is that all about? I was just as fine when I was single. I am the still the same person that I used to be. I might be happier, I might be busier, but this has not made me a worse or better person. It's just a new experience. New terms for the same equation. My life. Grow up!
Monday, March 15
People are just ridiculous creatures
One of the things I hate about being in love. The people's reaction to it. Usually, in conversations, along with the never-ending questions "How have you been?", "How's school", comes : "How's your love life?". Lets say you smile widely and they can tell there's something going on there. Apparently for some this is a crime. It's wrong that you are happy. It's wrong that you are in a relationship. Because, hey, what's love anyways but brainwashing and pointless trouble? Somehow they're better than you just because they're single. Prepare for the jokes and not very subtle ironies. "So, big love, huh?", "I suppose you have you're hands full now", "When's the wedding?", "Where's the husband?"etc.. Actually it's not what they say, it's how they say it. With sarcasm and pity. And frankly it bothers me. Because it's utterly immature. And there's the opposite reaction. Some of them start congratulating you like you've won the lottery or fulfilled a life-time dream. Like this was your last chance of being with somebody. What is that all about? I was just as fine when I was single. I am the still the same person that I used to be. I might be happier, I might be busier, but this has not made me a worse or better person. It's just a new experience. New terms for the same equation. My life. Grow up!
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couldn.t have said it better!
.. deci scuza-ma daca o sa fiu prea sarcastic, dar am observat ceva foarte bun la blogul tau...
la sectiunea about me ai schimbat din spotless mind in not so spotless mind :D asta ma bucura :)
I hate too if the person I'm talking with is considering that, if I fall in love I win a prize. That is just ridiculous. Love and marriage is something beautiful, not just the act of completing our needs... it is a gift from God. Everyone should appreciate it like that.
Happy evening, Joana :)
Revolta ! Revolta ! Iti exprimi nemultumirea intr-un mod diplomat folosind "umor ironic".
Hei, simte...si cam atat, cei care fac astfel de afirmatii sunt imaturi emotional si habar nu au cu ce se mananca ceea ce simti.
Oare nu-i folosim pe ceilalţi ca pe un pretext de a spune ceea ce avem pe suflet, de reproşa? În loc să ne bucurăm de ceea ce simţim, consumăm timp preţios pe frustrări neimportante. Urâtă constatare, îmi cer scuze, dar îmi pare al naibii de inutil.
@Răzvan: E si acesta un fel de a vedea lucrurile. Nu le-as putea adauga la categoria frustrari, ci poate indignari sau observatii de moment. Care in viitor ar fi putut deveni frustrari, dar le-am materializat in cuvinte, le-am confruntat si am mers mai departe. Oamenii de care ziceam se regasesc printre prietenii mei. Ei pentru mine sunt importanti. Parerea lor e importanta. Importanta e relativa.
Întotdeauna cred că sinceritatea e cea mai bună soluţie. Nu-ţi convine ceva, spune! Nu înţeleg unde în acele reacţii se ascundea o părere, dar poate am înţeles eu greşit.
Take a hear at my new piece :D (found on my blog).
Happy and sunny day :D:D
best thing you could do is to say nicely what bothers you, how do you feel about it. my opinion. that's how i do:)
P.S. never stop loving, no matter what:)
@onecapture: Thank you for the advice:).
"Tu sa ai si eu sa nu?! Pai hai sa te iau la misto un pic asa sa nu ma simt atat de inferior tie"
"relaia" e doar un alt subiect in care esti luat la misto cand pari sa te bucuri de ea, dar cam asa e cu majoritatea lucrurilor mai greu de atins (job bun, bani, masina, casa, prieteni, etc)
Merg de minune replicile (dar si cu o mimica de suprins si parca dezgustat de asa o idee):
"vorbesti de parca nu ai iubit niciodata", "a sunat de parca pe tine nu te-ar iubi nimeni", "ai zis-o cu asa suflet de parca am descoperit inca o America"
Replicile adaptate pe subiectele specifice persoanei cu ironiile. Nu poti sa-i spui ultima replica unei persoane care nu stie insemnatatea descoperirii Americii, spre exemplu.
Fost-am intrebat de mama in dimineata de dupa club: "a cui erau cizmele alea din hol? Ai venit acasa cu o fata? De ce a dormit cu tine?"
Raspuns: "Sa inteleg ca ai fi vrut sa vin cu un baiat?"
Continuarea e irelevanta.
Ramai superioara, fa-i sa simta penibilitatea intrebarilor. Dupa cateva incercari o sa-ti intre in obisnuinta.
I liked it, the way you said it. I noticed the same things about people, and even about me. For example, it hurt me a bit when I found out recentlz that a good friend of mine, a boy that I really liked, but it seems that that enough to be together with, found someone better than me for him. I hurried up to phone him and say "congratulatons" in an ironic and pity way... we shouldn't be like that, and yet, we instinctively act childish, sometimes...
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